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The Fear of Judgement

I think. A lot. And in my head I have constant narratives running, but never really going anywhere. When I thought about how to channel those narratives, I decided on a blog.But I'm nervous. Nervous that no-one is interested, but more nervous of being judged. I don't know why but this is one of my greatest fears.I have always worried too much about what other people think of me, if I'm not the kind of person that they want me to be, or if they don't like the person that I am. Does anyone else feel like that? It is quite a crippling outlook and I want to do something about it.I started Slimming World and found that some of the people I met at the group were sending me supportive messages on facebook. And I was horrified. Horrified that other people I knew would see that I was doing Slimming World, therefore realise I had gained a lot of weight since my school / university / early career days. And that they would judge me for it.I removed the messages off my wall, at the time hoping no-one would see them. Now, I can't believe that I did that. Someone was genuinely caring about me, and I cared more about what other people thought. People, I might add, who don't matter. As the old saying says; 'Those that matter don't mind, and those that mind don't matter.'So I need to put that into action. Be myself. My whole self - not filtering out parts so as to manage other people's opinions of me. It’s a challenge, particularly in this age of perfection, filters on photos, check-ins in glamorous places and the projected image of oneself. But a challenge I'm ready to take on.So this year, 2016, I'm not only taking on the challenge of blogging, but also of being myself and not worrying what other people think of me.


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  1. I promise you, you wouldn’t believe how many people out there think you are beautiful, and admire you for you, and what you do. Stop being so hard on yourself. I know it’s hard, and I know what it’s like to ruminate and “live in your head”, but there comes a time when you just need to “let that shit go”. New year, new you. I’m going to keep and eye on your blog and see what you get up to. I bet they will be great things! xoxo

    Love yo’self,


  2. You should definitely not worry about what other people think of you! This is a great post, because I think a lot of people can relate to it! Good luck with your blogging goal this year!

  3. I used to worry a lot about what I thought other people were thinking about me. And then I realized, “no one is thinking about me or judging me…they’re too busy worrying about what they think I’m thinking about them!”

    And then I got to a place of “even if someone is judging me, I don’t care. They can judge all they want. Won’t stop me from doing what I’m doing!”

    Best of luck to you and your blog. You are off to a fantastic start!

    Peggy Nolan
    Be In Love With Your Life,

  4. Try not to worry to much. I have learned that the blog post that you are most worried about getting judged on turn out to be the ones I have gotten the most support. Welcome to the blogging world.

  5. Beautiful! Your honesty and realness will draw people to you and you will realize, people love you just the way you are! And those that don’t…well forget them! You’re on the right track girl! (And btw-most bloggers and people in general feel this way-just keep writing!)

  6. Everyone has a message spoken in its own way that someone else needs to here. That’s what keeps me motivated when I have moments of doubt and think that I’m just doing the same thing as a whole lot of other people. Keep going. You will be amazed at how much it will validate you and build your confidence.

  7. I love this. You are not alone. It is a daily struggle to be at peace with our own uniqueness. Bravo to you for putt By a voice to it.

  8. Shared via personal fb and blog twitter. Followed IG and twitter too! Cheers to self-transformation! 🙂

  9. Your posting is abuslotely on the point!

  10. Grade A stuff. I’m unqoustienably in your debt.

  11. It’s amazing in life when you are given the blessing of an experience to really connect with another. I think it’s then when we realize that we truly are spiritual beings having a human expnrieece. Thank you for this small glimpse into your life.

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